Please help! How do i put a spark back into my relationship with my girlfriend of 2 yrs and 6 months?

Posted on September 30th, 2008 by admin in Get Girlfriend Back

I need to help to put the spark back into my relationship with my girlfriend. Please I need ideas, romance ideas, well basically any idea. Please help me I really do care about her a lot (when I mean a lot I mean a lot) and I don’t want to loose her.

We share a very similar story. Two days ago I broke up with the guy I dated for 2 years and 9 months. When our relationship hit 2 years and 6 months (just like yours) he told me he lost the spark while one month earlier we started to talk about our wedding. We spent a lot of time together, talked for hours every night, and even he admitted it we’re very compatible. We cooked together, had a lot of fun both privately and with our mutual friends, but apparently it’s not enough. After he told me he lost the spark, we tried to work on our relationship, but I guess I have to put a limit as to when enough is enough. He’s the one with the “losing the spark” issue, but he never initiated the talk about the subject. He’s moody and kind of emotional (not excessive), while I am a stable type. Along our relationship he’s improved a lot in term of moodiness and emotion. He’s very sweet, our friends said we looked like really care about each other, but apparently it’s not the same below the surface. We rarely fought, my nature is I can’t say much when I am angry. After we calmed down we talked and tried to resolve our issues. But again, maybe our relationship was too stable for him so he sought after the mood swing. After his terrible first love which ended almost a decade ago, I was his longest relationship. His other relationships ended only in months because he fought a lot with his exes. My message is, having our partner loses the spark towards us always puts us in a more difficult position compared to theirs as it makes us feel insecure, unworthy, and unsexy. I think this issue goes deeper than merely sharing romantic moments. Yes, they help, but they don’t cure. The most important thing is that BOTH have to have genuine intention to make the relationship work and take the consequence of that intention, such as setting up a period of time to commit and focus on the relationship without looking for new potentials. Determine the cut off point. Find the root of the problem. If after that cut off point the relationship doesn’t improve, then BOTH may wish each other good luck and start to look for new relationships. But BOTH have to commit in that period. Otherwise, it’s not gonna work and you’re gonna just waste your time and energy. Be prepared, it’s very tiring. But if you make it, it’s really rewarding. Most married people have to face the same condition, if you succeed, chances are you will know how to handle this issue in your marriage which will give both of you a big confidence to go on the next level.

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6 Responses to “Please help! How do i put a spark back into my relationship with my girlfriend of 2 yrs and 6 months?”

  1. mimi Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 7:34 pm

    Impress her with jewerly. Girls loooove jewerly and act like a gentleman and open doors for her and say “ladies first” and stuff to make her feel welcomed, and pay for dinner (:

    make out after in public
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  2. babybeauty Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 7:36 pm

    be romantic, cook dinners, or take her out to dinner (not McD’s) candles, massages, make her feel special and don’t ask for anything in return. make her feel like a queen. picnics are good.
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  3. Alayna A Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 7:36 pm

    awe thats really sweet. some guys dont worry about putting the “spark” back into relationships and they think thats the girls job. but idk ithink all you need to do is just take her out a lot maybe to dinner or something sweet. trust me it doesnt take much to make a girl happy. we think anything a guy does for us is rly sweet usually.even if it doesnt coast a million dollars.take her to movies and spend time with eachother i think thats all the spark that is needed in a relationship
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  4. rachel♥ Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 7:51 pm

    cook a romantic dinner for her w/ candles and the lights dimmed
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  5. wesuda54 Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 8:12 pm

    Tell her that she looks pretty. Try to notice little details when she does something good, and let her know about it.. for example when she changes her hair do or her make up etc. If you notice she is sad or tired give her a little massage around the neck. Give her a hug and hold her for a couple of minutes without talking; this is such a nice feeling! Once in a while bring her a flower(only one) and tell her that she is as beautiful as the flower. Respect her. Be there for her! Be her friend!. Ask her “what is the best think that happened to you today”? or how was your day”? Show interest for the things she likes!! Last but not least; if you can afford to buy her a good gift do it; something that she likes. It doesn’t have to be that expensive. Little things that makes a big difference!! Best Wishes!
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  6. andalucia Says:
    September 3rd, 2008 at 8:51 pm

    We share a very similar story. Two days ago I broke up with the guy I dated for 2 years and 9 months. When our relationship hit 2 years and 6 months (just like yours) he told me he lost the spark while one month earlier we started to talk about our wedding. We spent a lot of time together, talked for hours every night, and even he admitted it we’re very compatible. We cooked together, had a lot of fun both privately and with our mutual friends, but apparently it’s not enough. After he told me he lost the spark, we tried to work on our relationship, but I guess I have to put a limit as to when enough is enough. He’s the one with the “losing the spark” issue, but he never initiated the talk about the subject. He’s moody and kind of emotional (not excessive), while I am a stable type. Along our relationship he’s improved a lot in term of moodiness and emotion. He’s very sweet, our friends said we looked like really care about each other, but apparently it’s not the same below the surface. We rarely fought, my nature is I can’t say much when I am angry. After we calmed down we talked and tried to resolve our issues. But again, maybe our relationship was too stable for him so he sought after the mood swing. After his terrible first love which ended almost a decade ago, I was his longest relationship. His other relationships ended only in months because he fought a lot with his exes. My message is, having our partner loses the spark towards us always puts us in a more difficult position compared to theirs as it makes us feel insecure, unworthy, and unsexy. I think this issue goes deeper than merely sharing romantic moments. Yes, they help, but they don’t cure. The most important thing is that BOTH have to have genuine intention to make the relationship work and take the consequence of that intention, such as setting up a period of time to commit and focus on the relationship without looking for new potentials. Determine the cut off point. Find the root of the problem. If after that cut off point the relationship doesn’t improve, then BOTH may wish each other good luck and start to look for new relationships. But BOTH have to commit in that period. Otherwise, it’s not gonna work and you’re gonna just waste your time and energy. Be prepared, it’s very tiring. But if you make it, it’s really rewarding. Most married people have to face the same condition, if you succeed, chances are you will know how to handle this issue in your marriage which will give both of you a big confidence to go on the next level.
    References :

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