How long did it take for you to get over your ex?

Posted on September 18th, 2008 by admin in How to Get Ex Back

I dated mine for six years and we just broke up last month. I was wondering if anyone out there experienced anything like this and how long it took for you to heal? What helped you heal? I am in my mid twenties, so any ideas would help. Him and I are still friends, but the pain is still fresh. Thanks in advance!

I’m so sorry to hear about your break up! First of all, being friends is not going to make things better it will only make things worse. My ex and I tried to stay friends for about 6 months after we broke up from our 4 year relationship and the only thing that happened in result was worse pain, more bitterness, and almost to the point of hatred of each other. We didn’t talk to each other for about 8 months after that, the only reason we recently got back in contact was because of a tragedy that had happened in his family. His family was always so kind to me that I felt I owed it to them to pay my respects and to do that I had to contact him. We’re not really ‘friends’ per say but we e-mail every 4 or 5 days a couple sentences just to keep up with each other. I’m not over him, but I’m getting there. And being in contact with him now doesn’t remind me of our old times like it did once when we tried to be friends right after the break up. Healing is something you have to do on your own, and the process is different for everyone. For me it was solitude, I didn’t go out much, I picked up some new hobbies that didn’t require me to be around people and I slowly but surely became happy with myself again. I’m not completely over him but I’m not in love with him anymore either. Others may say that going out and spending every day with your friends and family is better. Like I said everyone is different. You’ve got to find what’s best for you but what works for everyone is staying busy whether that’s friends or picking up a new hobby by yourself or immersing yourself in work. Stay busy.

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14 Responses to “How long did it take for you to get over your ex?”

  1. bladough Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:08 am

    me and my 1st love lasted 7 months shes had 2 bfs since and i havent had jack but it took me longer than her to move on
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  2. i_ate_sponge_bob Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:09 am

    Being friends will slow down the healing process sadly. It took me about a year to get over my ex fully and that was without any contact.

    Don’t try and rush yourself into healing it may not seem like it but it gets a little bit better every day.
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  3. Tammy* Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:09 am

    I dated him for 3 years.. its been 1 year and a half, and i still haven’t got over him.
    I’ve dated other guys and what not.. but still feels like it should have been him in my bed, not other guys.

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  4. thundercats325 Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:11 am

    Truly since it was something special and lasted for 6 years u will probably not forget about he relationship. The only way though to change the way u feel about him is to find another person who is special
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  5. neworleansgirl24 Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:12 am

    I’m 24 I was in a relationship for 5 years and we broke up about a year ago and I’m just feeling like I’m healing…..I guess dating other people and far as you guys still being friends that doesn’t help at all I had to like distant myself big if I wanted to get over it all and it worked good luck hun it will get better
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  6. azzbe Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:12 am

    I suppose it all depends on how far into the future you made plans.The further into your life you imagined your ex, the longer it will take to be over them. 6 years prolly means you will always have feelings for him, but with time the feelings will change. hopefully you will find somebody who appreciates you for who you are and give you everything your ex could not. Good Luck!

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  7. Aatami Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:13 am

    I’m still not over my former love, though we haven’t even had a real relationship. And that’s been almost two years ago. But it is normal, just live with this pain, live at full and you won’t notice how it steps aside. Although I believe that people never really get over something. We just forget, adapt, ignore…

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  8. vicky Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:13 am

    i cried for 4 months and i jst told my self that i couldnt cry over him anymore and i just tryd not to think about it and then i was over really fast.
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  9. cubanshortyx3 Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:14 am

    i dated my boyfriend in april [ first love ]
    and its september and i still havent fully moved on
    but its nothing compared to how things were before

    - its funny how it didnt take him more than a week to move on

    good luck hun
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  10. yer_a_buttface Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:15 am

    marin,
    i was in a relationship for three years and have two kids and we called it quits 2 months ago and I’m still not over it, I’m sure its gonna take some time but dint beat yer self up over it things will go your way eventually keep yer head up and start looking at what lays ahead of you and the opportunities that await
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  11. BODHISATTVA Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:17 am

    SOME SAY THAT YOU SHOULD GO OUT AND DATE::: FORGET IT!
    YOU HAVE TO WORK ON IT FOR YOURSELF::: DEPENDS ON HOW STRONG YOU ARE!
    I KNOW A FRIEND OF MINE WAS LEFT BY HIMS GF ABOUT ” YEARS AGO::: HE SILL IS A SINGLE::: HE SAYS ´THAT HE WILL NEVER EVER TRUST A GIRL!
    HOW LONG???
    NO IDEA::: BUT I KNOW FOR SURE::: SOME DAY IT WILL BE NO MORE::: EITHER BECAUSE YOU HAVE COMPLETED WITH IT OR YOU GET USED TO IT!
    NEVER GIVE UP::: THAT WHAT DOSENT KILLS YOU; MAKES YOU:::
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  12. Ruthie Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:20 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your break up! First of all, being friends is not going to make things better it will only make things worse. My ex and I tried to stay friends for about 6 months after we broke up from our 4 year relationship and the only thing that happened in result was worse pain, more bitterness, and almost to the point of hatred of each other. We didn’t talk to each other for about 8 months after that, the only reason we recently got back in contact was because of a tragedy that had happened in his family. His family was always so kind to me that I felt I owed it to them to pay my respects and to do that I had to contact him. We’re not really ‘friends’ per say but we e-mail every 4 or 5 days a couple sentences just to keep up with each other. I’m not over him, but I’m getting there. And being in contact with him now doesn’t remind me of our old times like it did once when we tried to be friends right after the break up. Healing is something you have to do on your own, and the process is different for everyone. For me it was solitude, I didn’t go out much, I picked up some new hobbies that didn’t require me to be around people and I slowly but surely became happy with myself again. I’m not completely over him but I’m not in love with him anymore either. Others may say that going out and spending every day with your friends and family is better. Like I said everyone is different. You’ve got to find what’s best for you but what works for everyone is staying busy whether that’s friends or picking up a new hobby by yourself or immersing yourself in work. Stay busy.
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  13. servant4god@sbcglobal.net Says:
    September 13th, 2008 at 9:36 am

    Forgive, and of course this is impossible till one has given thier heart to Christ.

    Forgiveness is the essential part of moving – on, to where healing takes place, and understanding is gained.

    We all make mistakes, and some are out of our control, but we should take blame for the one’s we do, and even the one’s we are not to blame for.

    Your love for that person should continue even after “the break-up”.

    After these things have taken place in your heart, and then your life, perhaps then you can be friends, who become unseperable.

    First know Christ,as your Savior

    I hope this has helped.
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  14. Miss H Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 7:14 am

    I was with my boyfriend for five years and I realised that that I was no longer in love with him. I was the one who ended the relationship and still 8 months down the line im not over him. I believe that I have made the right decision but it doesnt make it any easier. We have no contact and I really believe thats the only way we can both move on. I had a brief rebound but I have not been with any guys since. Im taking this time to make myself happy!

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