What causes people in a loving relationship to break up?

Posted on October 1st, 2008 by admin in Relationship Break Up

Like for couples that really loved each other and were together for like a year or longer what causes them to break up do they just get tired of eachother or what???

A year is not long in a loving relation ship… you can’t really say it was a loving relationship till it’s been 5 or more years. The first year or two is just to find out if you can be together. So if youre asking about why couples break up after a year, then I’d say it’s because they figured out something about the other person that they weren’t willing to live with.

We all have our faults, but are you willing to live with the other person’s faults even if they don’t change?

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28 Responses to “What causes people in a loving relationship to break up?”

  1. Balleralert Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:17 am

    I doubt they would just get tired of each other if they really loved each other…
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  2. Molly H Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    whatrever. personal reasons that happen in the REAL WORLD WHERE EVERYONE SHOULD BE RIGHT NOW
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  3. ~MariMar~ Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    I think that they just grow older to become different people with different tastes.
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  4. Annuhh Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    Depends.
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  5. PunkRockEmoEyelinerEyes Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    To busy, bored of eachother, likes someone else.
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  6. cozcee Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    It's not that they need a break either. It's lack of bonding.
    For a good example watch "What women want" starring Mel Gibson.
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  7. Thomas A Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    they could want new things, or they just dont like each other, the possibilities are really endless
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  8. simpson_briana Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    what's ppl?
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  9. beautyxfallen Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:18 am

    Well [from experience] I think it's because they get really comfortable with each other and start opening up WAY more. Couples tend to argue about little things and soon it becomes an everyday thing. Some people just rather not go through the trouble of trying to make things work or are tired of everything so they end it.
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  10. Kerry V Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:19 am

    Jealousy or stubbornness
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  11. 2 Scared to Tell Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:19 am

    I dont think they get tired of eachother.
    Really it depends on how old you are.
    If your young, maybe the other feels like he's missing out on something else…
    && if your older, well, maybe the spark just ((didnt completely leave)), but its low.
    too low && they dont think itll ever go back to the full flame…
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  12. ironman5x2 Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:19 am

    This answer may sound really stupid because its so simple. People change.
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  13. bds Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:19 am

    lots of reasons, usually involves one or both people changing or selfishness.
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  14. Rose____x Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am

    erm….i dunno :S i had summin like that i loved him and he loved me then one day it ended :S, we was together for 20 months :|
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  15. optimisticdaria Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am

    Well i know with my long relationship i realized that i was just with him for convince and comfort. I was USED to being with him. We were talking about marriage then i realized that this wasn't the person i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I told him how i felt and all though i am sure it hurt him he still let me go, i think he was hoping i would figure myself out and come back to him. But sometimes, people just dont work out. For whatever reasons. What matters is that they dont settle and they find someone who it will work out with.
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  16. Captain S Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am

    Conflicting expectations, inabilities to communicate effectively, (Here's a biggie) Not knowing how to fight properly, that is, how to stay on topic and not rehash the past or devolve into name-calling, (and for those that have truly gone the distance) An inability to recover a suitable level of intimacy once kids come into the picture. Love is just the tip of the ice berg….there's a lot of work involved with keeping things solid (long after the honeymoon phase is over).
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  17. Desperately Seeking Answers Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am

    If you are truly in love, you accept your lover's faults. You want to be with them for a long time. If a relationship fizzles, there wasn't any love or at least not much love there.
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  18. Red_Chrome Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am

    Boredom !
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  19. CitiBoy008 Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:21 am

    A year is not long in a loving relation ship… you can't really say it was a loving relationship till it's been 5 or more years. The first year or two is just to find out if you can be together. So if youre asking about why couples break up after a year, then I'd say it's because they figured out something about the other person that they weren't willing to live with.

    We all have our faults, but are you willing to live with the other person's faults even if they don't change?
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  20. Natalie S Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:21 am

    no somthing or someone gets in the middle of the relationship and if its serious enough they break up. or it could be one persons realization about their partner or relationship
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  21. Orbach Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:21 am

    It depends on the individuals personality. Some people are very controlling, some people are easy going, some are very demanding, others like to test the water to see if they catch something better. Some people are very happy, some are very sad. Many many many things comes into play when mature people break up. As for immature people that's just in their nature, in their attitude to mess thing ups. They don't have any appreciation for anything good…….Again your question is very general because people are not usually on the same page.
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  22. thumperene Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:23 am

    It's not true love to begin with, because love grows.
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  23. Kiss My @ss Phucking reporters Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:24 am

    when they put their career, goal, or education above love.
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  24. blossom Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:24 am

    its complicated basically 1 partner doesnt satisfy the other 1 fully and i dont mean sexually it coul b in a variety of ways from sex to promises.
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  25. angela g Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:26 am

    as individuals we just change and together your no longer compatible. it not that they stop loving each other your love for one another just changes.
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  26. transplanted_fireweed Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:29 am

    Usually it's the result of one or both not being their real self, not being honest with their partner. One or both often try to impress the other when they meet, and as one person told me a while ago, "Most everyone can be nice for at least a year." But when the real person(s) finally take their "nice" masks off, it becomes apparent that the person they fell in love with didn't really exist.

    Another reason is that people do change….usually not in just one year's time, although it is possible, but over time a person can change to the point where the person you fell in love with doesn't exist anymore, either.

    I don't believe that honest, true love ever "gets tired" of the person they love. Dishonesty which breeds mistrust destroys love, even in little things that don't seem important at the time can add up and eventually undermine a relationship.
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  27. Enovia S Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 11:29 am

    I was in a situation like this a couple months ago. My ex and I was together for 3 years. After 3 years of beening with each other we grew apart some how. I grew apart from after finding things out about what was going on behind my back. Even though he loved, I wasn't the only one for him. So people who love each other spilt or break it off after finding things out or constantly arguing about the situation and little things. Hope this help you.
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  28. cale11 Says:
    January 6th, 2008 at 1:53 pm

    I can only speak for myself. My 2nd wife hated my son. My son was suffering and if was very hard on me. She did not see a problem and would not change. I still love her. If i had it to do over again i would have handled it differently.
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