Who moves on faster the man or woman from a long-term relationship break up?

Posted on October 6th, 2008 by admin in Relationship Break Up

From observing my friends who are gettting divorced and breaking up:

It seems that women get over the break up faster at the beginning and then hard on them later on.

For the male, it’s hard at the beginning, but then they get over it, and then easy later on.

Agree? Disagree?

I agree, a woman can get all caught up in the “I’m not taking his sh*t anymore”, then later on she can think, “maybe I wasn’t thinking clearly at the time..maybe we could’ve worked it out”. And a guy is probably going to think about it more clearly from the beginning. Wondering why it failed, where it went wrong, then he accepts it and moves on. Women tend to think “what if…”, thats when its harder to move on.

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17 Responses to “Who moves on faster the man or woman from a long-term relationship break up?”

  1. J M Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:10 am

    it depends on who was the unhappy one and if they had someone before the realtionship ended
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  2. Rick46 Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:10 am

    In mine, she got married 6 months after we broke up. It took me over 3 years. I think she moved on a lot faster. She was married before I even dated again.
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  3. fever_ricious13 Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:10 am

    totally agree
    a girl plays toough and then breaks down

    so man gets over it faster
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  4. Sanman Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:10 am

    That seems about right. I think women find it easier to find an immediate distraction. We men suffer for a while, and then slowly but surely get over them. I'd say your assumption is accurate.
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  5. Steph Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:10 am

    There are so many "what ifs" in a break up. Who did the breaking up I think plays a big part in it. Why the break up happened also. Men do not show their feelings like Women do, so it is hard to say who takes longer.
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  6. Bella Italiana Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:11 am

    It depends on who is getting dumped. My brother is in that situation now and he is suffering alot.
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  7. sophia_of_light Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    It has nothing to do with men or women, it has everything to do with the situation and the cause for the break up. If the women is cheating it will be harder for the man, if the man cheated it will be harder for the women, if they just couldn't egt along or abusive was involved again it all depends on the person and their out look on life and on the situation. Some people adjust well to change others don't… Men and Women alike.
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  8. Made in Texas Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    I agree and disagree. I think anyone (man or woman) who moves on too quickly is just trying to fill the void. But sometimes towards the end of a relationship you kind of "shut down" and start getting over it before it's even ended, that's how people fall out of love.
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  9. PurpleMom Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    I think it's just the way men or women try to hide. I know some men and women who have oth held on and took things hard.
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  10. Legandivori Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    Whoever reads Creative Divorce, Stop, You're Driving Me Crazy, The Divorce Handbook, and also, whoever gets into support groups, usually at a church or Y for separated and single parents. You have to know you'll be OK. It took me also to go into some therapy and realize my ex was terrible to me, and that I'd be far better off without her.

    That turned out to be a God-send. I haven't spoken one word, not one, to my ex in over 15 years. Only spoke directly to my now grown kids.
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  11. SweetPandemonium Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:13 am

    it's not cut & dried like that one way or the other…some couples one will get over it quicker, some the other. depends on how invested each was in the relationship.
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  12. MissJulie Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:13 am

    Depends on the person but I think after a break up many women feel that they werent "wanted" badly enough and need to move on to prove to themselves that someone IS interested in them and women need attention. They need to feel loved.
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  13. jmalin04 Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:14 am

    I think the begininng of the break up is harddest on the women and the beginning of the break up is the easiest for a man. Women feel the sadness, men feel their pride. So they won't adm,it or feel anything until they really know it is over. I think
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  14. Season C Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:24 am

    I disagree on certain aspects of your opinion! I think that the man gets on faster in the part physically, I think it's alot easier for a man to have a sexual relationship with another woman alot sooner(most the time while still married or in a relationship) than a woman can!! Woman tend to have alot more emotion involved, and need that emotional commitment or connection, if you will, to actually BE with another man. Whether it's after a divorce or while single!! Woman also have a lower percentage of cheating on their significate other!! I think the only thing to alot of men hard after their divorce or break-up, is dealing with the thought that they cannot posses them any longer, and their pride and ego cause them to be jealous which to a woman who has low self esteem, it would seem to be a act of love or careing, and then once the man is over it, the woman ends of hurt because of those thoughts or hopes that there might be hope it'll work.
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  15. melissa Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:36 am

    I agree, a woman can get all caught up in the "I'm not taking his sh*t anymore", then later on she can think, "maybe I wasn't thinking clearly at the time..maybe we could've worked it out". And I guy is probably going to think about it more clearly from the beginning. Wondering why it failed, where it went wrong, then he accepts it and moves on. Women tend to think "what if…", thats when its harder to move on.
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  16. islandgirl06 Says:
    July 27th, 2007 at 11:45 am

    I think it all depends on what kind of break up it is,but mostly a few women like me that's easy to move on when it comes to getting over a long relationship. but don't quote me on this one,cause I don't know what others will say,…………thanks!!
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  17. MrsRusty Says:
    July 31st, 2007 at 11:10 am

    I just think it depends. I was divorce after over 20 years. The day the divorce was finalized, I thought I would be devastated. Instead I walked out of the courtroom like the weight of the world had been lifted from my shoulders and I was able to move on quickly and completely.

    However, living with my X for over 20 years made it really easy.
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