My best friend's trying to win his ex back. It's a lost cause. What can I say?

Posted on October 28th, 2008 by admin in Win Back Ex

His ex is also a good friend of mine. He said if I'm really his friend I would not warn her about it. She's married and planning to move to England. Her husband just left and will be gone for about a month. My friend believed he can use this month to convice his ex to come back to him. I've explained to him time and time again that it's never going to happen. But he won't listen to me. Help!!!
His ex is totally in love with her husband. She doesn't have any romantic feeling toward him. She only wants to remain friends.

stay out of this. it's not your business

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17 Responses to “My best friend's trying to win his ex back. It's a lost cause. What can I say?”

  1. private.online Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:17 am

    stay out of this. it's not your business
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  2. memememememe Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:17 am

    You just need to be there for your mate, time is the only answer, if anything is going to happen, then it will, otherwise, just be there for them and support them
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  3. Lucid One Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:18 am

    i find that most women seem to like to interfere. stay out of it and let it take it's course
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  4. chicco123uk Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:18 am

    you should not judge if you feel its a lost cause in time she will realise who loves her truly and for what reasons be patient and dont upset her
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  5. chacha777 Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:18 am

    Let him learn the hard way.
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  6. pixiedust Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:18 am

    If isn't listening to your advice then let him do what he has to do and just be there for him if it all ends in heartbreak!
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  7. elaine39us Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:18 am

    hes an adult he can only learn by his own mistakes
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  8. DutchApplePie Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:19 am

    Stay out of the way, if ths person wants to do this then it is up to them. You have already said all that you can say but in the end they are an adult.
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  9. julianna76301 Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:19 am

    You are just going to have to sit back and watch him fail, and when it falls apart for him, just be a friend and help him pick up the pieces. Sometimes we have to put ourselves through hell to realize that what we thought we needed or wanted isn't going to happen for us. He will need a friend when this is over, so be prepared. And whatever you do, please don't say "I told you so…" he will feel bad enough. Good Luck.
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  10. seeking Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:20 am

    let him see on his own because obviously, He is not paying you no mind.I would stay out of that.sometimes it can get ugly when you know both of the ex's. just becareful and stay out of it!!!
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  11. auntb93 Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:20 am

    Since she's also a good friend of yours, you can point out to him that she has too much self-respect and integrity to treat her husband in such a shabby way. Point out that he would not want someone he cares about to throw off her moral values just so he can have his own way; that you love him enough to know he's not that selfish. He'll get over it once she's gone, but it's going to be a touchy month!
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  12. medtlcmom Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:20 am

    BE NEUTRAL!!!!! don't help him in any way.he needs to grow up and learn that an EX is an EX for a reason.she married someone else for a reason. just stay out of it.
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  13. silascurrie Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:20 am

    good luck.
    you've said your part and tendered advice that most would agree with. If he persists with it he is going to hurt very badly for the next 3/5 years. been there, got the t-shirt. It says 'I'm a moron'.
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  14. Loki Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:21 am

    due to experience, i believe as a good friend you should tell him that if he loves her he will let her be happy. it's her decision as well. i actually just tried doing the same and it backfired on me big time. take into account her feelings towards him too. have they changed? is she still in love or has deep feelings for him too? if so, then there is hope. but if there is no hope, then all he probablly will accomplish is to hurt her new relationship and possibly her marriage. i believe you shouldn't succumb to his threats also. make a decision: stay on his side and support him or stay neutral and want nothing to do with this.
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    past experiences :)

  15. warehaus Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:21 am

    I think that as this former couple's friend, you'll have to just hold your tongue on this. If this guy is determined, he'll just resent your "interfering" and it could hurt your friendship. I think if the married-and-moving-to-England ex-wife is happy in her new situation, she will not be swayed by this guy no matter what. Let him hear it from her once and for all.

    Your friend is going to have to learn the hard way.

    For now, I would tell him that you've said what you're going to say on the issue and then say no more. Then just be a friend to him once the situation has resolved. He'll probably need a shoulder to cry on.
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  16. mrbigg_6969 Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 8:26 am

    U HAVE TOLD HIM. THAT IS ALL THAT U CAN DO. JUST BE THERE FOR HIM..
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  17. princess Says:
    March 29th, 2006 at 9:17 am

    Well missyjenn i think that you should continue to talk to your friend and tell him that its not going to work out,i think that he must leave your friend alone to live her life.your friend should have thougth of making it up before your girlfriend got merried.
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